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I would just like to say that my husband and I participated in the COPE Program end of January/Feb 2016. This was an extremely well put together program and so worth it. It was a great way to find each other again and learn more coping mechanisms. We met some amazing couples and Chris and Kathryn Linford, thank you so much. I would recommend this program to any couple dealing with PTSD.

signed COPE Alumni

Rob and I would like to share that we are disappointed that Cope has come to an end. We have grown not only as individuals but as a couple thanks to the COPE program. We highly recommend this program to any couples affected by PTSD.”
You have made a huge difference in our lives and we thank you from the bottom of our hearts."  

Rob McGuin and Brenda O'Neill

Thank You for everything, our life naturally leads us in ups and downs, but we are handling everything much better and are really enjoying life together much more. We can't say enough good things about the counselling sessions after the course - it really cemented what we learned and allowed us the time to change some great training into great habits.

Brian Cameron

"My thoughts on the coaching… amazing. The fact that it is consistent and ongoing make you face the facts and not sweep them under the carpet. At first there was a lot of information, a lot to digest a lot of practicing. It took a while for me to realize they are all tools and you just need to select which ones work best for you. You can only use one hammer to hit in a nail. At first I was trying to use the hammer and a brick and a torque wrench (the heel of my shoe broke)

I also am very grateful to Laura for letting me know (in my private sessions) that it was not all about PTSD. I felt at first that I was not allowed to “be human” because PTSD was in my life. 

Laura told me it was OK to be angry, sad, happy, irritated. The couples sessions dealt with us a couple and how we addressed joint issues. The private sessions were about me, how I felt, why my feelings were important. I felt (not anymore) that PTSD was ruling me. I felt I had to walk on eggs, I felt a loss of control over myself and thereby a loss of control over the relationship. Laura has helped me so much. In accepting myself and my feelings (sans PTSD) I can now paint the picture a colour that I want and like and want to be with. It has made such a huge difference in our relationship. Eggshells and cotton wool are not the way to address our PTSD. I was not confident enough to be strong. Charles needed me to be strong. I could not be strong as I was withering under his “control” . Now that I can look at him, us and PTSD through glasses of my own design and making I am confident that we can make it work. The positive change in our relationship has been remarkable. Even while in South Africa 2 weeks ago, Laura reached out to me to discuss my wellbeing during a difficult time, something I never expected and appreciated so much. It had nothing to do with COPE coaching but she helped me to be strong and showed me that I had courage. I came back to Canada a changed person. Things we talk about privately in our one on one sessions – if it affects us as a couple she encourages me to weave the issues into our couples sessions so we can deal with them together. She is mindful of how Charles (and I) deal with things and brings the issues into the discussion in such a way that neither of us feels threatened or bullied. 

 This has been and still is the program that saved my marriage. I am sure my situation is different from the norm. I never knew Charles without/before PTSD, so I never met the man he was, therefore I cannot see/ know how PTSD has changed him. 

 Even so our PTSD is an elephant in the room. I just learnt through Laura (COPE) to redecorate, move a few things around, paint it in complimentary colours and make the elephant work in the final design. Now it blends in to our relationship and I no longer have to stub my toe on it every time I walk by. 

Thank you for a truly life altering program. 

I learned to understand it was not me or what I was or was not doing.  Above all I learned I am not alone!!  There are others out there with the same or similar experiences.  

Right from meeting Chris and Kathryn, all the way through the intake process, the five day intensive sessions and through until the end of Phase two 

( and beyond because of the private face book group ) we feel so much better as a couple.   

We have much more understanding of how PTSD affects us and how we can cope or deal with issues and challenges that come up. 

COPE has given us the tools to be a functioning couple once again.   🙂

“Empowered with the coping tools that we learned on the COPE program

we are now able to safely expose the skeletons in our closet,

without shame, for more meaningful dialogue with the real hope for an enduring relationship,

that we both so rightly deserve” 

Chuck & Carmen

My name is Susan and I am the spouse of a retired Navy sailor who has PTSD.  

He did not have PTSD when we met and got married.   But something happened and it felt like all of a sudden there was a different man in my life.

Once diagnosed, he had access to Doctors and the Military Medical System.  I was invited to a few sessions and also told I could go on my own.  

However, there was nothing for us as a couple.   I felt alone and blamed myself for so much and I just did not understand what had happened or how I should act / react.

Before COPE we had become associates, living in the same house, sharing the same space.  The connection was there but aloof and tense.

 We happened to meet Chris and Kathryn Linford at a function and heard about COPE.  We immediately knew this was something we just had to do together.

It was weird though, I was scared to go, but also scared not to go.  What was I going to learn, what was I going to have to do or share?  

Five days of intensive time together with others, who would look forward to that?   It was hard, but it was in the end well worth every second and amazing.  

It is true that you do not know what you do not know.  Now I KNOW!  And I can not imagine ever going back.

 The most important part for me from COPE was the understanding of not only PTSD (because believe me I had done lots of reading) 

but how HIS PTSD affected him and how he was living with it.  

I learned to understand it was not me or what I was or was not doing.  Above all I learned I am not alone!!  There are others out there with the same or similar experiences.  

Right from meeting Chris and Kathryn, all the way through the intake process, the five day intensive sessions and through until the end of Phase two 

( and beyond because of the private face book group ) we feel so much better as a couple.   

We have much more understanding of how PTSD affects us and how we can cope or deal with issues and challenges that come up. 

COPE has given us the tools to be a functioning couple once again.   🙂

Susan & Stéphane